1. They’re good listeners

　　1.他们是好的听众

　　Charmers immerse and focus themselves in what the other person is saying. They aren’t busy thinking of a rebuttal or a response. They don’t interrupt people while they’re speaking. Instead, they make people feel like they’ve been heard.

　　有魅力的人会关注并沉浸在对方所说的话中，他们不会忙着考虑怎样反驳或者做出回应，他们不会在对方说话时打断。相反他们会使对方感觉被倾听。

　　2. They speak clearly

　　2.他们表达清楚

　　They take their time to think about each sentence, avoiding any unnecessary fillers that will make them unclear. These good communicators speak confidently, precisely, and deliberately.

　　他们会花些时间考虑每句话，避免不必要的言语使自己表达不清。这些善于沟通的人说话很自信、严谨并且是经过深思熟虑的。

　　3. They ask for advice

　　3.他们寻求建议

　　When someone asks for your advice, it shows that they value your opinion. Asking someone to share their area of expertise helps boost their confidence. And it will likely make them think of you more favorably and memorably.

　　有人向你寻求建议时说明他们看重你的想法。让别人分享专业的意见能帮他们建立自信，也有可能使他们更喜欢你更能记住你。

　　4. They’re authentic and genuine

　　4.他们真诚坦率

　　People seek someone who is real since they know they’re trustworthy. If you’re likable, you know what makes you happy. And that makes you more interesting and appealing to people.

　　人们都会找真实的人，因为他们知道这样的人值得信赖。如果你很可爱，你就知道什么能让自己开心，这也会使你更有趣，更迷人。

　　5. They ditch their phones

　　5.他们放下手机

　　In order to really make a positive impact on someone, you have to put your phone away. When someone is charismatic, he makes you feel like you’re the most important person in the world and uses the chat as an opportunity to learn about you.

　　为了能真正给对方留下积极印象，你要放下手机。一个有魅力的人会使你感觉你是世界上最重要的，并且利用和你聊天的机会了解你。

　　6. They use your name in conversations

　　6.他们聊天时会重复你的名字

　　Who doesn’t like to hear the sound of their name? A charismatic person remembers people’s names and greets them with it.

　　谁不喜欢听见自己的名字呢?一个有魅力的人会记住别人的名字，打招呼时就称呼对方的名字。

　　7. They don’t name drop

　　7.他们不会借名人来抬高自己

　　They may remember names but they don’t squeeze in the name of celebrity they just met into every conversation. And that makes them even more likable.

　　他们可能知道一些名人的名字，但不会每次聊天都提到自己刚见到的名人，这会使他们更招人喜欢。

　　8. They acknowledge others’ accomplishments

　　8.他们认可别人的成就

　　Who doesn’t want to be recognized and appreciated for something they did that they’re proud about? Notice these good doings and you’ll be sure to be remembered favorably and positively.

　　谁不想因为自以为傲的成就而得到认可和欣赏呢?注意到别人的成就，你一定会顺利地被人们很好地记住。