5. Don’t even try to change your partner

　　不要试图改变你的另一半

　　You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A humanpsyche has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.

　　在这个世界上你可以很多东西，但是几乎不可能改变另一半的观点和习惯。你所能做的只是把一些正确的方法展现给他们，如果他们内心想要改变的话，他们会主动做出改变的。人类的灵魂会习惯性忽视别人强加给他们的思想或行为，用强加的方式可能会让你的另一半暂时得到提高，但是不久之后他们又会回到原来的样子。如果你不能忍受另一半的某些缺点，你就应该把精力放在改变自己身上，用不同的方式去应付各种状况。不管面对什么事情，都最好保持冷静。

　　6. Get rid of your inner conflicts

　　摆脱你内心的纠结

　　Your attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of your fears and anxiety which reign in your sub consciousness. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be able to share your love with somebody else.

　　你在恋爱中的态度和行为举止，都会反映出你潜意识里的恐惧和担忧。如果你想要有一段健康的恋爱关系，你就应该从治愈你内心世界的恐惧和担忧开始。还有，你需要尽可能地做一些提升自己自尊心的事情。开始爱护自己，这样你才能够去爱别人。

　　7. Learn how to let go gracefully

　　学着优雅地放手

　　It seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.

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　　似乎有一些恋爱总会教我们怎么去体面地放手。在建立一个幸福和健康的恋爱关系过程中，相当多的反思之后，你会明白这份爱不会再继续浪费你的时间和精力。不快乐的恋爱教会你如何为幸福做斗争。除此之外，你应该把握这次对过去放手的机会，从而能够找寻你生命中的真爱、并和TA培养一段持久有爱的恋爱关系。当你再次面临分手的时候，别泄气，因为这有助于你换个视角看世界、并开始新的恋情。

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