运用场景2

　　去朋友家吃饭，主人客气地跟大家征询：“各位想吃点什么?”可马上又来了一句：“Shall we all choose steak?”既然主人都这么问了，你还能不同意吗?

　　朋友聚会，A君抛出一个问题：“Would you prefer to live in Beijing or Hainan where the air is very clear?”表面上这句话是在询问别人的选择喜好，但听完了where the air is very clear之后，多数人会顺着提问者的暗示对海南的空气大加赞赏一番。反过来，A君的问题如果换成：“Would you prefer to live in Hainan or Beijing where you can enjoy the wonderful city life?” 听完了where you can enjoy the wonderful city life之后，多数人会顺着提问者的暗示认为北京都市生活的无可替代性。

　　选举会上，B君提议大家对William进行评议：“What do you think about William? Nearly everybody is opposed to him, by the way.”听完你肯定会暗自思忖：“William是个‘万人烦’，我还能表示支持吗?这么冒天下之大不韪好吗?”

　　探索式提问

　　当我们欲对事情有更清晰的认识、更广泛的了解和更深刻的体会时，往往会借助探索式提问(probing questions)。探索式提问能帮助我们找出更多细节, 对事物展开更深层次的剖析。

　　常见表达1

　　当你想了解一个陌生词语或想确认自己的理解是否正确的时候，可以试试下列提问。

　　“What exactly did you mean by XXX ?”

　　“Could you tell me more about XXX?”

　　“What were you thinking about when you said XXX?”

　　“Sorry, I didn’t catch all you said. Could you help by giving an example?”

　　“Could you please give me an example to illustrate?”

　　“I’m not certain what you mean by XXX. Could you give me some examples?”

　　“This is what I heard … Did I understand you correctly?”

　　常见表达2

　　当你想了解更多细节的时候，可以试试下列提问。

　　“Could you tell me more about that, please?”

　　“And what happened after that?”

　　“Then what happened?”

　　“What else can you remember about that situation?”