4. Will it fit in your priorities?

　　恋爱是你的当务之急吗?

　　If you’re a person who has a vision and a plan, this is a good question to ask yourself. How will a romantic relationship fit in with your priorities? If you know that right now, you’re still building your career and there’s a lot at stake, is it the right time to have one? While you’re finishing one project after another, having a boyfriend or girlfriend is a nice to have that you think about during your breaks.

　　如果你有自己的目标和规划，那很有必要扪心自问：一段浪漫的恋爱是否是当务之急?如果你确信如此，别忘了你正在努力打拼事业，百事待兴，这时候谈恋爱适合吗?你正项目接项目地忙活，喘息时想想身边能有个伴儿是件非常美好的事。

　　If you’re fully aware that it’s not one of your main concerns, there’s a high probability that you’ll take your partner for granted. It would be more beneficial and practical for you to allocate your time to what’s important to you as of the moment and avoid disappointing someone else.

　　如果你非常清楚这不是你的重中之重，那就算有恋人，你很可能也不会特别投入。这种情况下，倒不如把时间用来做当下最重要的任务，不要徒劳使他人失望罢。

　　It’s easy to be blinded by the media, past experiences and couples that you encounter about what a romantic relationship will bring you. But before you get consumed by your desire to have one or worse, be brought down by its current unattainability, be wise enough to think twice about it, what you want right now might not be what you need.

　　媒体宣传、以往经历或身边情侣很可能误导你对浪漫恋爱的理解。在你冲动想要恋爱前，不如清醒认识到目前的不切实际性，理智做到三思而后行——你现在所渴望的，未必就是你需要的。

　　5. You can’t even make yourself happy.

　　你甚至都无法使自己快乐

　　Some people assume that having a boyfriend or girlfriend is the ticket to happiness. They think that it will make things lighter and easier because there’s someone there to make them feel content. Though relationships may have this effect, you have to note that if your happiness is dependent on someone else and this person doesn’t meet those expectations, you’ll end up more miserable than you started.

　　有些人想当然以为，只要有男朋友或女朋友就会过得快乐。他们以为，到时候一切会变得容易而轻松，因为身边会有人安慰呵护他们。当然，恋爱确实能带来这些好处，但请别忘了：如果你把幸福托付给别人，一旦这个人达不到你的期望，你会超级受伤、悔不当初。

　　It’s your job to make yourself feel happy and fulfilled, with or without a partner. A relationship simply adds value to you but it shouldn’t be the one that completes you.

　　所以，不论有没有恋人，快乐和满足都只能靠你自己创造。恋爱只能为你增光添彩，却无法替代完整的你。